Top 10 Ways to Have the Best Holidays Ever

Posted 04 December 2012 in Self development

The holiday season will soon be upon us. And with it will come the hope that this one will be truly magical. However, many of us quickly get bogged down in busy-ness, stress and old patterns. Here are 10 ways to turn that dynamic around and create the magic.

1. Give yourself a break. Perfection -- even perfect happiness -- just isn't possible. Let your best be good enough. Make a budget for both your time and your money -- and stick to it. It really is the thought that counts.
2. Make conscious decisions. Get clear about what you really want to do over the holidays before compromising with others. If you don't have a clear plan and clear intentions, you might find yourself getting swept along by others' desires. Even if you compromise later, get clear first.
3. Shorten your to-do list. What do the holidays mean to you? For many, it's about family and friends and spirituality. Decide what it means for you. If an item doesn't add to your holiday spirit, scratch it off.
4. Say no when you want to. It's very liberating. Try it and see. It sounds simple, but too often obligation trumps desire. When faced with options, choose the one that would make you happier.
5. Limit obligatory activities. If you can't avoid certain events, limit the time you're there. Alternatively look at thee activities differently. If you altered your mindset - maybe you can enjoy it more or see value.
6. Start early. To avoid a last-minute frenzy that can bust your budget, start shopping or making presents now.
7. Ask for help. Reject any notion of martyrdom. The burden of preparations should not fall upon one person. The more specific you are in your request, the more successful you'll be.
8. Establish new traditions. If you have experienced a major life-changing event, such as a death or divorce, consider doing something you've never done before over the holidays, such as travel to another country or take a cruise.
9. Get support. If a glorious holiday season feels completely out of reach, you may experience the holiday blues. Many people do. Don't beat yourself up for feeling that way. Reach out for the support you need.
10. Take good care of yourself. The old standards help keep stress at bay: eat healthfully, exercise, drink lots of water, and breathe deeply. Schedule time for relaxation and reconnecting to what's key for you. It's an ideal time to start or continue mindful practices.